I was thinking back yesterday on how at the age Zane is now, I was pregnant with my second. Hayley was exactly 21 months, when I found out I was pregnant with Zane. Now, it is time to decide if I want a third! I know we have some time to decide, and I am no where near ready to get pregnant again, but I really feel I should decide if, not necessarily when, a third will come into the picture.
In an ideal world, I always said I wanted three children. I come from one of two children and my husband comes from three. Ironically, he is done with children in his world. I know he will be supportive if we decide to have a third and will be the same amazing father he is to Hayley and Zane, but I do know that he would be done, if it was not for me. This is where the decision gets hard- Is a third child what we both want?
We have gone through some rough times with both children. When Hayley was a baby, she was extremely tough- colic to the nth degree. I ended up suffering with PPD for the first year of her life, probably because I was dealing with a baby who was never happy. It was an extremely tough time in our life and no one in the family slept a full night of sleep for at least a year. After she got better, I found out I was pregnant with Zane. I was nervous beyond belief but much to all our relief, he was an exceptionally easy baby! However, the past year of his life, he has definitely been a handful! A typical boy…Is what I hear to describe him! I am so blessed to have healthy children, but I will say that some days, I want to rip my hair out with both of them! I think all moms/dads feel this at one point or another though.
While two years ago, I was 100% sure I wanted a third, now I am about 80 % sure. There is also a very big twin component in my family, so there is always the chance that Baby 3 and 4 will end up coming:) My question, to all of you is how do you know when you were officially done? Did you always envision yourself having a certain amount of children and have you stuck to that plan? Do both of you agree how many children you want? I would love to hear what you all have to say!