I know my daughter is only 3 but I get so excited at the mere thought of her starting activities. We started going at an early age to classes such as Itsy Bitty Yoga, Mom and Me Yoga, and Signing Time. While I really enjoyed going to these classes and meeting my mommy friends there, I don’t think Hayley really remembers them. I know they were great for her to be involved but we could have just as easily decided not to take those classes.
So, when Hayley turned 2.5 she actually asked me if she could take dance class. Off we went to enroll her in toddler ballet. She loved it so much. She was in her first recital last June and even though she froze like a statue for the entire performance, she exited the stage and exclaimed to me how much she loved dance.
Fast-forward to this past August when soccer registration started. I knew soccer and dance were at the same time but I only asked her if she wanted to play soccer. It was a mommy fail and I was being really selfish for not bringing up dance. I wanted her to play soccer! I played soccer starting at a young age and I wanted her to emulate me with her love of sports. We got to the soccer field on the day of our first practice and she basically cried the whole hour of practice.
Things began to go from bad to worse at soccer due to our horrible experience with our coach. The coach was really a miserable person to my family and there were many instances when I wanted to approach her about her demeanor. She was nasty and it unfortunately left a bad taste in my daughter’s mouth about soccer as a whole. She kept telling me that she didn’t like soccer and she wanted to dance again. I feel bad that I left her in the whole soccer season rather than withdraw her. It was a huge mommy fail for not listening to her about not liking soccer and a huge fail for not approaching the coach earlier. I did end up writing an email later to the coach and whether or not she reads it, or cares, will be seen. My feeling is she probably wouldn’t care:(
I learned an important lesson and that is I will not interfere with what my daughter wants to do. If she doesn’t want to play soccer, so be it. If she doesn’t want to play tennis, so be it. What really matters is what makes her happy and to her, that is dance at the moment! I know things can change in the future, but until then it is all dance.