I thought I would blog about the problems I am having with Hayley’s sleep in the hopes that someone can help me out. Both my husband and I are functioning on a few hours of sleep at night and the culprit is not my boy (who is 10 months old) but rather Hayley (who is almost 3.5 years old).
Let me start by giving you some background. As most of you know, my daughter was born with a very traumatic labor. After a very stressful labor and an emergency Csection, Hayley was born only to be a NICU baby for a day and an half. She failed her apgar test miserably and was having a plethora of breathing problems. When things finally settled, we were able to bring her home. What we didn’t know, is she would have terrible colic which led to her crying for the first four months of her life. During this time, our only reprieve was she slept through the night at 10 weeks. She cried most of the day, so by the time night rolled around, she was zonked and proceeded to sleep 10-12 hours a night.
Once her colic resolved and she was a happy baby, she stopped STTN. Once we finally got some peace during the day, she decided that she was not going to give us any sleep. I was at my wits end because I just dealt with 4 long months of misery (not just for me but for her as well). That is when my husband and I decided at around 5 months, we would do a modified sleep training method. Lucky for us, it worked brilliantly and she began to sleep 12 hours a night.
Well, all was well and dandy, until about 6 weeks ago. Hayley at that point was still in a crib so we decided to switch to a big girl bed in the hopes of her STTN again. We were wrong- no difference was seen. The problem lies in the fact that she wakes us up several times a night. When we go in, she seems to be still in a sleep trance. We tell her everything is fine and to go back to bed. She does but only to wake us up about an hour or two later. Again, she is in a sleep trance. If we don’t go in, she is hysterical and I am afraid she is going to wake up her brother.
I also began to think of her naps and if this perhaps was interrupting her night sleep. We knew when she napped, she would end up calling out for us till around 11 pm but then she would sleep till 9 am the next morning without waking up. I tried eliminating her nap, in the hopes that she would sleep much earlier than 11 pm. This is when all our problems started. She would pass out around 8:30 pm but then her nightly cries would start around 2 pm and continue through the night. I almost rather her nap and fall asleep at 11, than be woken up many times at night.
Again, this problem has been going on 6 weeks now. I know around this age, they do get scared of things and begin to get nightmares. I understand that but it can’t possibly be night terrors or nightmares for 6 weeks straight every night . The only thing that is good is she is not at all cranky. The girl doesn’t need a lot of sleep. However, her parents, need sleep especially when they both work and have another child to take care of. Lucky for us, our son, is a wonderful sleeper. I do have to add that she truly is a terrific toddler- smart, well versed, kind, and lovable! If it wasn’t for the horrendous sleep problems, we would be all set!
So, this is where I need your help. Did anyone ever go through this? What did you do about it? I welcome all suggestions and Thank you in advance!