Life with 2 kids- 9 months in! How am I doing? Any PPD?
I remember writing a post when Zane was 3 months old trying to figure out how I was doing with two kids at that stage. At that time, I thought having 2 kids was easier than 1 kid. Well, today at 9 months old, I can honestly say, for me, going from 1-2 kids was a much easier transition than going from 0-1 kids.
When I had Hayley, I had some serious undiagnosed PPD that lingered for the first 13 months of Hayley’s life. I solely breastfed and I had some issues with it. I had a little birdy in my ear telling me if I didn’t continue to breastfeed for at least 1 year that I was a bad mom. I had anxiety to the nth degree. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep! I watched the minutes ticking away till my husband could relieve me of the duties of taking care of this little person. To top it off, Hayley was a terror. She has to be one of the best toddlers today but boy, did she give me a run for my money as a baby. Imagine hearing a kid cry for 24 hours a day for 7 days a week. Now times that by 3 months, and you will begin to feel for me. Having just Hayley was so hard for me. My whole lifestyle changed. I was the spur of the moment person and I realized that having a kid meant that the scheduling of your life had to somewhat change. We could not just pick up and go to New York on a random weekend. We had Hayley to think about. I don’t think we realized this until we actually had her.
It was such a hard adjustment for me when Hayley was born. I cried A LOT!! The summer of 2010, I went away to Hawaii and came home to find out that I was pregnant with Zane. I know this is going to sound bad but I shed a lot of tears. I was a nervous wreck. I wasn’t sure I could handle another child in the mixture. I was finally getting used to having a child and loving her with all my might. Would I go back to the dreadful colicky stage? Would I enjoy any of the newborn stages? Would I like having another child? Would I cry all the time?
Zane was born in March 2011 and the transition has been perfect. My kids are exactly 2.5 years apart to the day and I love the age difference. Hayley is the sweetest sister and is my little helper. When Zane came along, I think G-D laughed at me. Zane is one of the easiest children with a fantastic temperament. He smiles all day and is just plain awesome! As great as he is, though, I think my demeanor is such a factor in my happiness. I am not a nervous nelly anymore. Although some people might not agree, I have no schedule for Zane. I wanted it like this because I didn’t want to obsess (like I did with Hayley) with having to be home at 9 am and 1 pm on the dot. If he misses his morning nap, I don’t fret. If he ends up sleeping in the car, no big deal to me. My big motto is to not stress. It works for me!
I really feel like I am a brand new mom the second time around. Not so much in not knowing what I am doing, but rather, in the way I let motherhood effect me. I smile all the time now and am just so happy with my family. Having 2 kids for me has been a breeze. There was no adjustment for me the second time around. Maybe it is his temperament, maybe it is mine – who knows, but I will say that I am finding two kids much easier. Now, I am asking my husband for a third in a few years. He laughs because I was the one who couldn’t think she could raise two kids. Go figure!
So, for all you with kids – how was the transition for you? For those with multiple kids, do you agree with me or do you find having multiple kids harder? I would love to hear!
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