I realized the last time I updated about life with Hayley and Zane, it was around 4 months ago and things have definitely changed. Life is beginning to get easier in some aspects, yet difficult in other aspects. I like doing these posts because it gives me a nice look back at how parenting two kids is, along each step of the way.
Zane is officially talking which has made my life much better! Before, he would sign what you wanted but there is really no substitute from actual talking. He now says, ‘Mommy, please cracker” “Mommy, please help” “Mommy, I love you.” It is cute to see his dialect forming and has helped me understand exactly what he wants.
However along with talking, he has become a lot more stubborn. If he does not get what he wants, he will begin throwing a full temper tantrum. I am fully aware of tantrums, as I obviously went through it with Hayley, but Zane seems to take tantrums to the next level. I am at fault sometimes though, because I give in to him. I know, this is the worst thing you could do, but I just hate hearing the screaming and crying. #MomFail on my part! I told my husband though this weekend, I am going to be a more strong mom. I am going to start implementing time outs and not allowing him to “rule” our household, which is kind of what he has been doing lately. I can’t help it sometimes because he is just too darn cute!
That is where the harder part comes in- trying to find the time to balance between both kids! Zane is requiring a lot of my attention now and so is Hayley. Hayley is a truly wonderful 4 year old (I am so lucky) but she wants to spend a lot of time reading books and playing games with her mommy. I don’t blame her one bit. I need to find a good balance to make them both happy. I know one suggestion I got was to devote Zane’s nap time to Hayley, but by that time, I need a break too! What I have been doing, is every night, spending a half hour to an hour with her alone. I put on Yo Gabba Gabba for Zane and we do our fun stuff. Usually it ends up being a game of Go Fish or a game of Toddler Monopoly, but the bonding experience one on one is truly wonderful!
Now for the easy part- THEY ARE PLAYING TOGETHER! I never in a million years would think that they would get to the point of playing together. However, a lot of nights, both of them go upstairs and play in Hayley’s room. I watch them on the monitor and they usually end up playing ring around the rosy or playing with Hayley’s toy in her room. I was afraid to let them be together without me on their backs constantly, but it has worked out well. I think they love the fact that they can have their independence without me monitoring their every mood. I even got to watch 15 minutes of my show in piece and quiet while they were playing upstairs. I love seeing them play together!
So that is it for now- I will be back at 24 months to update again my series, Life with Two Kids. In the meantime, here is a cute picture of the four of us on our recent ski trip: