I read a few posts talking about the child harness, aka child leashes so I thought I would weigh in. I know my friend Censie at Building Our Story and have talked about this on their site and I loved hearing their thoughts, so I thought I share mine with my readers.
Pre-kids, I sort of judged and I will admit that. I was never downright forthright with my opinions but I did give the stare if I saw something that I did not think was necessarily appropriate. However, this was pre-kids and as life says, you never know truly how to be a mom and how you are going to raise your kids, till you actually become a mom.
Now, being a mom, I no longer judge (or at least try not to- sometimes I judge things I see that are horrific but that is another story). However, I encountered a situation raising my children that I thought I would let me readers know about. It involves the child harness, aka child leash, so if you have a strong opinion about the matter, I would probably step away from this post.
Since giving birth to my kids, both of them don’t like to be in strollers for very long. It is actually quite hard when you have a 4 year old who likes to walk, and a 18 month old, who has no interest sitting in the stroller. He emulates everything his sister does including wanting to walk wherever we go. I obviously can’t let him go all over, so I needed to find a way to keep him safe. I vowed to myself I would never use a harness because I thought it was not the best option for my kids. How wrong I was!
I bought the child harness and now can readily walk with Zane outside his stroller. He is confined and I know he is safe. To me, it is really no different than seat belting a child into a stroller. Our forthright concern as parents, is to make sure our kids are safe and if you have a kid who just will run every which way possible, it is a very good option.
However, I thought I share with you my story of what happened. I was at the zoo and he was in the harness. We were happily seeing all the animals when one of the people who was at the zoo with his own kids, STARTED BARKING AT MY SON!! BARKING!!! I was appalled. He was obviously barking because he thought I was keeping my kid on a leash, like a dog, and really didn’t understand why I was using it. I was mortified. I was honestly too stunned for words to say anything. In retrospect, I wish I would have gone over and given this guy a piece of my mind. I just can’t believe someone would bark at my son and feel right doing it, with their own child watching him. It was truly disgusting.
I often wonder why some people can be such idiots. So my question to you, is have you ever been judged badly for something- whether it be parenting or something else? I am interested in hearing…